I’m an introvert. I don’t talk much, and I don’t enjoy meeting people. I avoid going to a party if I can. (Which is most of the time). I’m still amazed at how Indonesians can talk about trivial stuff for hours and hours which might be the reason that free chatting services are so popular here. (Facebook, Twitter, Kakao Talk, Line…).
Where was I? Right, I’m an introvert, and at family gathering, an aunt of mine, once, insulted me for it. She said what a shame that I’m such a social outcast, that human beings are social creature, and I must go out to see more people, and I’m such a bad influence to my own children. (She’s not a bad person, it’s just that Indonesians are really blunt. People don’t hesitate to tell that you are a bad mother to your face. ><).
So I wasn’t angry, but a little annoyed, so I told her,”It’s OK by me if you think I’m incompetent and you can’t accept me for who I am. But the truth is I like myself. I’m enjoying my life. Don’t worry about me and my children. Everything is fine with us.”
She looked surprised and then tried to ridicule me for giving her a “too-serious” answer. She said, “Oh my God, don’t be so rigid like that. I was just kidding.” Or something like that.
The truth is my children are outgoing and enjoy being with other people. Just like their mother, they have good self-confidence, too. Their mother is learning Korean as a hobby and enjoying K-Pop songs. If you ask me, I think they have a very cool mom.
(On the other hand, having a well-intentioned mother who criticizes you all the time and tries to change you into someone else you’re not is painful.)
About this introvert thing…
The fact that I never approach a living Korean to talk to, even after 2 years of learning Korean, it’s actually by choice. Because sometimes I see Korean people at the mall. I just say to myself, wow… Korean. 한국인이다… But that’s it. How about saying hi and inviting them into my life? Uh-oh… maybe next time.
I enjoy interacting with ideas and stories in Korean, not necessarily people.
Being an introvert, learning a foreign language to meet more people is not a motivation, it sounds more like a torture.
I’m actually learning Korean to enjoy my time alone, not to interact with other people.
And now I’m using my Korean to have a good time alone, watching a Korean sit-com drama: 몽땅 내 사랑. ←이 드라마 너무 재미 있어서 완전 빠졌어요. (=This drama is so interesting I’m totally hooked!)
By the way, I won something from KBS World (OMG, again?!) Radio English Service. I don’t know what the prize is, but I got a hand-phone strap and postcards from KBS World Radio Indonesian Service once. I probably will get the same stuff this time, too. But anyway, I’m happy. I’m getting something sent from Korea♪ ###
- Everything Else is Optional (koreanvitamin.wordpress.com)